Common Questions Women Ask During Divorce (And Honest Answers You Need to Hear)

As many of you know, our Women’s Divorce Support Group is now on hiatus until fall. With the summer months often pulling us in different directions, I wanted to leave you with something enduring — a resource you can return to when you need reassurance, clarity, or simply a reminder that you are not alone on this journey.

Through my work, I hear many of the same heartfelt questions from women navigating divorce. Indeed I’ve had these questions myself! Below, I’ve gathered two of the most common ones — along with my thoughtful, experience-based answers. My hope is that these words offer you both practical guidance and emotional support.

1. Will I be okay?

“I’ve been married so long. I’m scared. I’m not sure I can do this… but I know I can’t stay in this marriage either.”

First, hear this: yes, you will be okay.

Not just “okay” — with planning, support, and time, you can build a life that feels authentically your

One of the very first steps I recommend is finding a good attorney. Consult with several before choosing one; you want someone who not only knows the law but also respects your emotional journey. (Fun fact: Did you know that any attorney you consult with — even if you don’t hire them — becomes conflicted out from representing your husband? It’s a small but powerful move to protect your interests early on.)

It’s normal to feel overwhelmed at the start. It’s also normal to feel stronger as you go. Step by step, you will find your footing.

2. Will I be alone forever?

“What if no one ever loves me again?”

Another deep and vulnerable question. And the answer?

Not unless you want to be.

Relationships — friendships, romances, community ties — are still possible for you, maybe even in ways you’ve never experienced before.

But first, and most importantly, this is the time to ask yourself: What do I want?

For many of us, that question can feel shocking or even paralyzing. Maybe no one has ever asked you before. Maybe you’ve spent years putting others first. But now, you are invited — no, encouraged — to sit with that question and let yourself start dreaming.

Your desires matter. Your needs matter. You matter.

Designing your next chapter starts with being willing to imagine it.

Other Common Concerns:

While these two questions come up often, you may also find yourself wrestling with thoughts like:

• “How will I manage financially?”

• “How will this affect my children?”

• “Will I ever feel like myself again?”

• “How do I rebuild my identity outside of being a wife?”

All of these questions deserve time, patience, and individualized answers — and in future posts, I’ll dive deeper into each one. For now, remember this:

You are stronger than you think.

You are braver than you feel.

You are capable of creating a life that feels good, true, and free.

And you don’t have to walk the path alone.

We’ll be back in the fall with new gatherings, renewed energy, and a community ready to support you. Until then, take care of yourself, trust the process, and keep believing in the incredible future ahead.

With care,

Paula